Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Wed morning gratitude

This morning I am thankful for....

  • a four cheese souffle from Panera
  • daisies in my garden
  • baby Dory and the time to go see Finding Dory yesterday afternoon
  • my hearing:  I can listen to music, hear the neighbor mowing, the truck that just rumbled by, and the breathing of my dog as he sleeps.

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Gratitude Exercise

A grateful and open heart.  I've been closing myself off again lately and want to focus on gratitude to help me with having a grateful and open heart.

Today, I am thankful for....

  • Courage - having the courage to step up and make tough choices, knowing that those choices are the right ones for me.
  • Summer fruit
  • The laughter of my daughter.

Hello, old friend

I've been thinking about coming back and writing for quite some time.  Today, I took the step of actually doing so.  I had been intended to utilize the blogger app on my phone to start blogging again, but alas it appears the app is no more?  I'm guessing I need to have some form of google app to access it that way.

Gosh, it's been almost a year since I've visited and posted.  I intend to post photos or brief thoughts to  breathe some life back into my blog.  We'll see how that goes. ;)

Monday, August 31, 2015

Winding down

Summer is winding down, school begins tomorrow.  There is always that bittersweet taste to this time of year.

Saturday, June 20, 2015

Starting early

The Hubs and I will be taking a 3-night Disney cruise in February.  Since we are at a stage where this isn't much to plan, I started on some creations for our door magnets.  

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Spring has sprung

We've been working on re-doing a flowerbed in the back yard over the last month.  I've been finding peace working with the earth between all the other gardening I've been doing as well.  Here are a few highlights from the last month or so.

Dragonflies at the local park

Wellness Journey

Bam, nothing like a photo of myself to start out this post.  However, I did it for a reason.  That lady (yes, me) deserves to love herself, to think she is worthy, and to know it will all be okay.  To the little girl hiding inside her that just wants to be loved, without question, without judgement, and without are loved.

Some of this is going to be  ramble as there are many thoughts racing through my brain at the moment.  Stick with me, please.  Many thanks!

I know some hate the selfie craze that has taken hold with so many people, but for me it's been a great thing.  I didn't find myself in a great deal of photos up until a few years ago; some because I'm usually the one behind the camera and two because of the way I felt about myself & the fears I had.  Selfies have been an amazing thing for me once I started following a group of ladies (#365feministselfies) on Instagram last year.  See a great explanation here.  To be able to show the real you, not always the "made up" you.  I think that's pretty awesome and was something I could get behind.  Myself and other women should feel comfortable being ourselves, for showing our everyday faces, and sharing that love with each other.  And so, I have become much more comfortable having my photo taken.  And I intend to continue taking selfies or having my photo taken; it's a beautiful thing.

And here comes a difficult photo to share....

Low point?  The ugly?  Not sure what to call it, but this is a side shot of me today.  As in 10 minutes ago.  I started following some fat-to-fit accounts on Instagram and one of the ladies shared that she was so thankful to have the side shot comparisons 9 months into her journey.  And with that inspiration, here is my starting point today.  240.2 pounds of me (ouch, that hurt to put out there).  I certainly am not happy with how I feel, how I look, and the concerns of tomorrow's health, so begins this journey.  #operationlovemyself I'm calling it. 

This isn't about losing weight.  It's about transforming fully into myself.  To stop hiding behind the weight and to stop living in so much fear.  This is a journey that has been in the making, I've been working with a therapist for 2+ years on personal stuff and that work will continue.  Heck, that work work will be a lifetime journey in itself.  I've worked to set up tools & techniques and will continue adding more to my life in order to be the healthiest me I can be.

Emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically.

I've been trying to create more movement within my day.  From parking further away in a parking lot, to taking the stairs, to yard work, etc.  This morning I hopped on the bike for a quick two mile ride.  About 20 seconds of it sucked, but the rest made me feel wonderful.  And almost an hour later, I'm still feeling the energy high.  

Since part of my wellness journey is to engage my right brain more with creativity and play as well as inviting more movement, I want to write about my journey.  It's not for you, dear read, but for me.  Without being disrespectful, I don't care if anyone reads this.  This is my space to write and express my journey, for me.  I just happen to have a public space to do so in.  However, if you do stop by for a read now and then, please feel free to offer some encouragement and love.  Ack, asking for that was almost as painful as sharing the photo and weight.  I would so greatly appreciate knowing others out there are supportive.

And on that closing note, be well everyone!

Thursday, May 7, 2015

Bumps in the road

Took a minute to scroll the facebook feed and came across this, posted by a Buddhist page I follow:

"You will only be surrounded by annoying people and frustrating situations until you learn not to get annoyed or frustrated. Then you will only see them as people and situations, nothing more."
And with that the righteous indignation blew almost fully out of me.  Tonight I have been incredibly frustrated.  And feeling alone, disappointed, hurt, fearful, and a few other things I'm not delving too deep for. 

I am fighting my schema, or framework, tonight.  I got stuck, and still am a bit, in my traits.  Traits that I am working through and beyond, but it is the framework and has been for 30+ years. 

I'm not sure where things are going from here.  I feel like my relationship may be at a crossroads.  Only, I'm the only one that probably feels that way.  Which is part of the problem.

I am fighting shame and fear so hard tonight.  And self-deprecation.  And the knowledge as well as knee jerk reaction of self sacrifice. 

Fear of abandonment, fear of lack of perceived control, fear of the intensity of my emotions, fear of happiness, fear of being authentic.  And I continue on the merry-go-round.  I continue to create and encourage chaos in my life.  For so many reasons.

I have no ownership over his actions.  He is responsible for himself and I can only choose how I react.

Thursday, April 30, 2015

May 2015 Preeclampsia Awareness Month

It's that time of year again.  The time in which I roll out the red carpet for preeclampsia awareness.  In reality, I do that all year long; however there is always a highlight that happens in May.  May is designated as Preeclampsia Awareness Month (#PreAM) and also happens to be the month in both my preeclampsia babies were born.

Quick recap....
Baby 1 - HELLP Syndrome (class I) at 34w5d; Ariana is born weighing 4lbs and spends 18 days in the hospital.
Baby 2 - Gestational hypertension at 32 weeks, induced at 37 weeks with a preeclampsia diagnosis. My BP upon check-in that morning was 200/100. Phoenix was born weighing 5lb6oz and got to come home with us two days later.

I've been involved with the Preeclampsia Foundation since late 2003 and volunteering for over 10 years now.  In that time, I've had the honor and priviledge of meeting some incredible individuals who make a difference each day in the lives of moms & babies and individuals who have lost their loved ones (sometimes a baby, sometimes a mom, sometimes babies, sometimes mom & baby).

So, don't know what I'm talking about?  You didn't know moms could get really sick during pregnancy?  Need to know more?  Be sure to check out

Do it.  Right now.  You can come back here later and visit.

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

time flies

Time flies when one is adventuring in life, doesn't it.  Things are settling down after some bumpy times, that includes me, which is a wonderful thing.  I've had some terrific opportunities that I am so thankful for and along with that has come the support of my loved ones.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Monday, January 12, 2015

Time for me to fly

In an effort to take care of myself, I've started tracking my food and exercise in My Fitness Pal.  I've tried off and on before, but would log info for a day or two and then forget about it.  Well, I'm a week in and haven't skipped a day yet.  Only two of those days, I was over my calories.  One of them was but about 50 calories and the other was a total loss, which I acknowledged.  It was a day when emotional eating 100% took hold and I am aware of it.  

With sticking with this for a week, it has already caused a few moments where I checked my calorie intake for the day before making a food choice.  And it has helped.  So, I'm going to also try and write about my journey as well.  Figured it's time for me to fly and just put it out there. 

At my highest weight, I weighed 244 lbs.  This was almost a year ago.  Currently, I've been hanging out between 235-238; however with some of the changes over the last few weeks and being honest with myself about why I'm eating, I have lost a few pounds and at my last weigh-in was 232 lbs. 

This journey isn't about me having a dramatic weight loss which involves a 21 day fix or paleo, etc....this journey is about me loving myself and believing that I am worthy of taking care of.  Self-love is the journey and my motivation.  The weight loss will come along with that just as the gain did all those years of self-loathing and hate.   It may be slow, but I need to go at my own pace.  I will push myself, challenge myself, and have days of failure, but it's one day at a time and a step backwards doesn't mean "I" am a failure or that I can use that as an excuse to quit my journey.

I look forward to this year and the opportunities that await.

Sunday, September 28, 2014


tonight i am feeling so damn alone.  and my heart is hurting so damn bad.  we experienced a major bump in the road of life this afternoon and it's bringing stuff up to the surface and making me face some of my demons.  as much work as i have done working through issues, the major fear of being left or rejected still remains.  how to articulate the feeling is difficult.

so in my usual way of attempting to manage my feelings, i have been working on tasks so i can feel accomplished about something.  scrubbed the toilet - check.  got the kids fundraising stuff completed - check.  and now i sit to work on the teacher letter i need to write (and have been meaning to do) for the youngest child.  this is probably not the optimal time to be doing so.  he had a blow up earlier and the aftermath rocked us all.  of course, i am the one who will hang onto the aftermath & all it's shit. and the letter in which i share my son's strengths and weaknesses is just too much for tonight.

i feel tender, scared, apprehensive, guilty, and alone.  and i knew i needed to process feelings rather than stuff them, so i sat down to write.  this is so short and doesn't share a great deal, but this post is my life preserver this evening. 

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

First Days

A ship is safe in harbor, but that's not what ships are for.

It's the first day of school in this neck of the woods and my eldest joined the middle school ranks.  I have never cried at the first day of school.  Daycare, yes, school, no.  This morning, after she boarded the bus and was on her way, I turned toward the house and was overcome with emotion.  My baby girl is growing up.  

We haven't always done right by her and have been working to change that.  We've protected her a bit too much and sometimes that means she doesn't want to do something or believe that she can do something.  We've tried to fix life for her rather than have her figure it out at times.  And to know where she's come from with her anxiety to seeing how bravely she faced her fears today, it simply make me verklempt.  She shared that she was scared for today last evening, but handled herself with grace and courage.  I am so proud of her.  She is so damn amazing.  The line at the top of the post is one I came across today as someone else shared their emotions of of the first day of school.  I read it and was teary-eyed in seconds.  These kids are our ships and yes, sometimes they need the safety of the harbor.  What they need is the freedom to sail while knowing they have a solid foundation (boat) and that safe harbor to come home to.  

This parenting stuff is hard some days.  Some days are fantastic.  Today was a bit of both.

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Universe does it again

I signed up for and receive emails from the Universe. I love reading them and there are many times where the daily email fits for the life moment that is happening.  This is today's......

What if that one person in your life right now that you're not feeling so much love for, Denise, was also the one person in your life right now for whom you could make the greatest difference?

    The Universe

This hits so close to home right now, it might as well have dropped a house on top of me.  Rather than working at being upset, I need to address my perspective and work to see how I can be of assistance.  This person is struggling and I don't believe wants to look at just how much they are struggling.  This person is suffering and while I don't have the answers on how to exactly help, I know that I can do better to support this person.  I can stop judging, stop being angry with, stop criticizing, and practice more love, more acceptance, and more support.  

I can understand that at first glance, this comes across as a selfish writing.  What I have learned this last year is that I can only control my own side of the street, no one else's street.  I cannot change this person, but I can change how I react and interact with this person.  And in doing so, help us both.